Research explores the evolving landscape of men’s friendships and social change in masculinities
Research highlights the evolving landscape of men’s friendships in Australia, to offer insights into the mechanics of social change in masculinities.
A new book, Destabilising Masculinism: Men’s Friendships and Social Change, by Dr Brittany Ralph, explores how two generations of Australian men have navigated the complex landscape of same-gender friendship across their lives.
Men’s same-gender friendships have generally been characterised as ‘activity-based’, with many believing that men didn’t show their feelings or talk to their friends about personal issues. However, recent studies suggest that men are more open to being physically affectionate, emotionally expressive, and are comfortable discussing sensitive issues with their friends.
This study shares the stories of 14 pairs of fathers and sons, as Dr Brittany Ralph illustrates the intricacies of this gradual social change, and how it has been experienced over time and across generations.
The findings highlight how the increasing influence of feminism, LGBTQIA+ rights, and mental health discourse are reshaping the possibilities for male bonding. One significant factor that was found to influence the changing nature of men’s friendships is the mainstreaming of LGBTQIA+ inclusion in Western societies. This societal shift challenges outdated beliefs that ‘closeness’ between men must be romantic in nature, resulting in men being able to express affection without fear of judgement or stigma.
Feminist ideas advocating for gender equality have also played a crucial role in challenging the stereotypes of masculinity. By encouraging emotional openness and rejecting the notion that men must always be ‘tough’, feminism has created space for men to embrace vulnerability and authenticity in their relationships.
Additionally, therapeutic discourse has contributed to reshaping men’s emotional landscapes by encouraging individuals to explore and articulate their feelings. By rejecting the concept that men should suppress their emotions, society is able to foster an environment where emotional intimacy can flourish within friendships.
Speaking of the findings, Dr Brittany Ralph, Lecturer in Sociology, Social Policy, and Criminology, said:
“My findings suggest that men’s friendships are undergoing a significant transformation, influenced by broader societal shifts towards inclusivity and emotional well-being. By challenging outdated notions of masculinity, these shifts give men permission to forge deeper and more meaningful connections with one another – and, while the change I document is far from straightforward, many of the men I spoke to are relishing this newfound platonic closeness.”
The findings demonstrate the positive shift in societal attitudes towards recognising and normalising men’s emotional experiences. However, deep-rooted stigmas and gendered expectations still hold cultural weight, as evidenced by the rise in popularity of figures such as Andrew Tate. Addressing systemic barriers, such as limited access to mental health resources, and ensuring increased efforts in improving education, advocacy, and support systems in this area are essential.
The findings of this book are certain to stimulate critical discussions within the field of gender and sexuality studies, as well as masculinity studies. The research provides compelling insights and is set to make significant contribution to ongoing debates surrounding masculinity, friendship, and social change.
Access ‘Destabilising Masculinism: Men’s Friendships and Social Change’ on Springer Link.
Dr Brittany Ralph’s latest paper ‘Making Sense of Increasing Physical Touch in Australian Men’s Friendships’, co-authored with Professor Steven Roberts, Monash University, expands on elements of this book. This was published March 2024 in the Journal of Bodies, Sexualities, and Masculinities, and is available on the Berghahn Journals’ website.